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You have to go pro at playing the online dating field. Our pointers will help you perfect the art of juggling girls -- so you can thoroughly enjoy having your own personal harem.
Whether it's chance, timing, an exact alignment of stars -- hell, who cares what it is! -- you've found yourself on the receiving end of a woman monsoon. From the Jessica Alba look-alike to your new exchange with that hottie
you chatted with who inspires naughty thoughts to the athletic girl you found on
Love Zone Chat, amazing women are popping up out of the woodwork. For some reason, you can't seem to find it in your heart to turn any away from any of them. And why should you? Dating a slew of sexy singles simultaneously does wonders for your ego, your social life and (duh!) your chances of meeting Mrs. Right. The more women you date, the better your odds of finding your perfect match. The ideal setup is to have three amazing women in rotation at once. You'll never get hung up on whether any one girl will call, and girls you go out with will pick up on that decidedly
non-desperate vibe and clamor for you even more. Of course, juggling multiple women takes some skill. Read on for all the instruction you'll need to avoid potential pitfalls and maximize your woman hot streak.
Handling Women Rule 1: Cram Your Calendar
You may be tempted to play it safe and spread out your dates so that you can get to know each of your potential Ms. Rights one by one. But being so politely planned out -- limiting yourself to one girl per weekend or even per day -- could cause you to lose momentum. So go ahead and pack your calendar with appointments as tightly as you can swing it. You'll get a rush from the excitement and gain confidence at the same time.
When one of our successful online daters, Mike, 27, was on a roll, he filled his schedule with as many back-to-back dates as possible. "One day, I managed to setup a lunch date with a hot Latina from an online dating site, then that same day I went clubbin’ that with a girl I'd met on another site. The next evening, I invited a group of friends out for drinks, including a girl I wanted to get to know better, and I flirted like mad with her," he admits. "I felt so full of sexual energy, and I think it showed: Each of the girls couldn't get enough of me. It was like being wanted by a thousand women at once." Really want to flex your
multi-woman handling muscle? Don't just double book for the same day; do it for the same event. For example, if you're going to get a gang together to tailgate at this weekend's football game, ask both of the girls you met online to come over. Or throw a dinner party and include two of your possible catches on the guest list. You'll get to play host, and no doubt, your girls will detect a hint of mystery about you. They'll wonder, Is he feeling that girl more than me? Or is she just his friend? Girls come alive in the face of competition. Your job? To eat it up.
Handling Women Rule 2: Be Discreet... but Honest
You may have bounced out of Susan’s bed in order to meet Veronica for brunch and then run home just in time to go to a movie with Jessica...but they don't need to know that! Try your hardest to not reveal any details about where youa re going. You'll only make things complicated and awkward. As long as you don't agree to exclusivity or say you're not seeing anyone else, what you do with your time is your business. Of course, it's tough to dodge the subject when a girl is asking you all kinds of crazy questions. Just be honest, but you know, be vague. Say something short and simple, like "I don't want anything exclusive right now." End of story.
Handling Women Rule 3: Curb Your Jealousy
If you haven't already thought of it, let me remind you: The
non-exclusivity clause works both ways. In other words, if you've made it clear to a girl in your life that you're not willing to settle down, chances are, she isn't either. What to do if you find yourself suddenly realizing that you aren't the only dude on a girl’s calendar? Suck it up. You can't change the situation (unless you want to give up your own roaming privileges), so make the best of it.
Handling Women Rule 4: Be a "Big O" Opportunist
When it comes to sex, you know the drill -- get tested, get condoms, whatever it takes to be safe. Once that's taken care of, use your discretion about who to slip into the sack with. If you want to have more than one mattress mate, go for it. Part of the fun of dating several women is the variety of booty you are gonna get. Meaning, you get to sample more than one sexual style at once. If guilt dares to permeate your brain, consider this: you’ve gotta to it all the time without shame or fear of judgment. Most important, do what you're comfortable with.
Handling Women Rule 5: Slip Out with Style
Odds are good that if you've followed all of the above woman-managing mandates, at some point you're going to stumble upon someone worth keeping. That also means informing the rest of your ladies that they're out of the running. So how do you break things off gracefully without coming off as a coldhearted jerk? Be quick and honest. It might sting a little, but most women will appreciate the straightforward approach. They will appreciate and it will put in control every time.
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