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It used to be that if you wanted to find a romantic partner you were limited to the small pool of people that went to your high school or lived in your town. If you couldn't find your ideal mate at the local malt shop, you were out of luck. There were also some things called “going steady,” “petting” and “reefer
madness”. It was a dark and confusing time.
Internet dating has changed all that, promising databases with thousands of available sexy singles, and the ability to quickly and accurately match clients with their ideal mates. Word of mouth has spread from people who have successfully met their partners online; those of us who are too busy to meet people normally, leave the house, or maintain our personal appearances have sat up and taken notice.
In order to gain the attention of your ideal woman you need to develop a successful profile that will go the distance, one that will draw a great deal of attention to you. The main objective of online dating is to establish as much communication with prospective women so you can successfully weed through the pack and find that special someone (or for some of you, the many special someones!).
Before you begin putting together your attention grabbing profile you gotta remember that it's vital that you are honest in your profile and through your photos so that you don't meet (or interact) with others under false pretenses. Of course it is ok to embellish a little. Here are some tips that should get you the responses from the people you want.
Be casual
The best way to write a profile is to imagine yourself meeting someone new for the first time in a casual, no pressure setting such as a coffee shop, a local bar, or friend's party. Think about the kind of things you would tell others about yourself. Your dating profile or personal ad is the same idea extended onto the Internet.
Follow a factual but casual approach to writing your personal ad. You want to let the people get to know concrete things about you, but at the same time, your ad should not come across as a boring resume. Sprinkle it with some humor and exclamation marks! Make it fun and interesting. A good online dating profile has 200-250 words, with 150-200 words for yourself, and 50-100 words describing the kind of person you are looking for.
Talk about your travels
If you have moved around a bit in your life, mention the places where you have lived. It gets more people interested in you and wanting to write to you. For example, if you are presently living in Los Angeles but have lived in Dallas, someone who has a Texas connection is more likely to write to you. If you have lived internationally, all the better-people are always interested in life in other places and cultures.
Go from typical to unique
Does this profile look familiar?
"I am a fun person who loves movies and music. I like walks on the beach, good conversation, and dining out. I'm looking for someone who is fun and can make me laugh."
Unfortunately, the above describes most profiles - typical and non-informative. Beef up your profile to be more descriptive and unique. Instead of "I like movies," say "my favorite movie is ____ because _______" or use a movie character to describe you. "I'm a lot like _____ in ______ because _______."
Use clever words that are descriptive. Instead of saying "on hot days I like to go to the ocean or on a hike," say, "on a sizzling day my adventurous side leads me to traversing the ocean on a sailboat or discovering a new waterfall that I can cool off under."
Instead of "I like to discover new things," say, "I'm a lot like Indiana Jones in that I love exploring the mysteries of life, while educating my mind to appreciate new things."
Strive to make your profile unordinary by spicing it up sentence by sentence. Be descriptive, unique, and fun!
Funny and Witty Go a Long Way in Dating
Talk about how you entertain yourself. This is where you can be funny and witty, so exercise your imagination. Mention about your social circle. Are you a social person? Do you have many friends? Do you go out with them a lot? What activities do you do with them? If you have a good relationship with your siblings, your parents, and your family, mention it. Mention if they live close to you, and how often you see them. Mention if you like pets, and have any of your own. When you are talking about the person you are looking for, be clear about your requirements, but make sure you don't limit yourself unnecessarily. If you do not want to date men who have kids, say so. If you do not want to go out with smokers, mention it clearly in your ad. Again, be careful because you are restricting potential mates here. Write personals ads and develop your online dating profile with items that you are very sure you absolutely want or do not want in a potential partner. Mention if you are looking for a stable relationship or if you are just looking to make friends and will see how things go from there ("looking for nice and interesting people to hang out with").
These winning profile tips are guaranteed to increase attention to your profile that you desire. Your mailbox will fill up much faster and your chances of finding a connection will jump sky high.
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